My rescue cat, Romeo, was doing something today. I don't even remember what it was--begging for food probably because he's on a diet. But for some reason
I thought about my dad and tried to remember what my dad had to say about Romeo.
Then I realized,
he never met this cat.
And that made me feel really, really sad.
I got Romeo almost 2 years ago shortly after his 9th birthday. He had had, as well as I can tell, 5 homes in the last year (before that, 1 home). He was afraid of everything, with severe PTSD to the point where he had to be sedated for six months or have a fear-induced heart attack. He's got some poor litterbox habits (hence the "shaming" picture). But now that he's figured out we are keeping him even if he has litterbox issues, he is really sweet and loving and adorable and I am totally his "person" and he follows me around and constantly rubs his head on me so the other cats know I am his.
I think my dad would have liked him.
But realizing that, although Romeo is 11 years old and dad's been gone only 5 years, they never met, made me
think of everything else my dad will never see and never know.
That made me alternately sad and angry. I don't MISS my dad much anymore, but when I do, it always knocks me for a loop.
And I have to wonder if I'm angry because he died or if I'm angry at how he died. Would I have felt such anger, started this blog, if my dad had cancer, or died of a heart attack (what probably would have happened without the Alzheimer's, since he had at least 1 heart attack that we know of while he had dementia. I don't think so.
3 comments:
Hi Bert,
We recently came across your 'Had a Dad' blog.
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We really like your blog and we are looking for contributors.
Would you be interested in writing a short article (300-600 words) for our website?
Perhaps something about your own experiences with Alzheimer’s, or the advice that you would give to people who have been either directly or indirectly affected by the disease.
We hope that you will find our new site useful and will consider sharing some of it with your readers.
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The Practical Alzheimer’s Team
If it's any consolation, I know what you mean. My dad died last year, and I do ok with him gone, but there have been about three times in the past year where I really wish I could talk to him. That's when BAM -- it hits me, he's gone and I can't talk to him anymore. It puts me into a panic sometimes.
I hope you are doing ok, hopefully getting the words out on "paper" gave you some relief...
That snow storm could NOT be understood by them and it made me nuts trying to explain that I could not go out.
My mom has alz and I moved her down the hall from me. Sibling didnt care she was paying over a grand a month rent with teeny income-she still "borrowed" thousands from her.
I dont have guardianship yet, but no one has access to her savings anymore. I have a caregiver blog also, come visit :)
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